I was visiting with longtime, beloved friends last week. Seems I’m not the only one who’s been in an odd, restless place recently. Some combination of what’s in the news, summer expansiveness and being in my second Saturn return (an astrologically significant time of change and upheaval, first in your late 20s and again in […]
It’s easy to think the smallest thing that someone else does is great and that the largest thing we’ve done is nothing much. I talk to so many women who feel, as I often do, that if I’ve done something, well, gee, can’t anyone? Doesn’t everyone? “Really, it’s no big deal that I lifted that boulder off of your kid…oh, but thank you so much for that glass of water, it’s delicious, I was so thirsty!” Sound at all familiar?
Most inspirational speakers exhort us to “give it your all!” to “go big or go home!” Or maybe even “give 110% to truly give your best” to “always go above and beyond what you think you are capable of!” in order to truly succeed.
I think for many of us, this is a recipe for disaster.
Don’t look down; this inquiry isn’t about a number on the scale or how your jeans fit. It’s not a shame game, it’s a claim game — how you claim space in your life in a way that feels just right for you. If you’re like me and most of the women I work with, […]
With all that’s shiny and new in the world, it’s hard not to be seduced by images of perfection. Oh sure, we see images of native elder faces, craggy beyond belief and radiantly alive, and see the beauty. Looking at ourselves in the mirror, marking changes as the years go by, not so much. In […]
Tender shoots are cropping up. Little buds are showing on branches that were empty just yesterday. Here in the northeast and in many areas, green is coming back after months of brown and grey. It feels like we spend a lot of time waiting for the big things — the long awaited vacation, the chance to see […]
Trying times can bring the strongest person to her knees, emotionally if not literally. That’s where I’ve been the past few weeks, as so many things I thought were moving along smoothly or falling into place fell away. Happy clients needed to cancel and did not reschedule, or scheduled many weeks out. Calls and emails went unanswered, sometimes multiple […]
Death is so paradoxical — it’s the only thing we can truly be sure of in life, and yet somehow we think it won’t ever really happen to us. Oh yes, we know it intellectually. We plan for it by setting up wills and trusts for loved ones, purchasing plots in cemeteries or making clear […]
What do you see when you look in the mirror, dear one? Even more important, what do you say to your sweet self?
It seems sometimes that we’re wired to find the “flaws,” or even to search them out.
I actually had a perfect title float into my head in the wee hours of the morning, but it got lost in a dream. It spoke to the gratitude of the season without being maudlin or cutesy. It was so good it almost made me get out of bed, turn on lights, put on glasses and find pad and pen. But I didn’t. And now it’s gone…poof!