Most of the time, you don’t know how much you’re carrying until you put it down. I got a taste of my own medicine at a retreat last weekend. I knew I needed it, but I didn’t know how bad until I got there. I’d signed up to spend the weekend at one of my favorite places, Garrison Institute, housed […]
It’s easy to think the smallest thing that someone else does is great and that the largest thing we’ve done is nothing much. I talk to so many women who feel, as I often do, that if I’ve done something, well, gee, can’t anyone? Doesn’t everyone? “Really, it’s no big deal that I lifted that boulder off of your kid…oh, but thank you so much for that glass of water, it’s delicious, I was so thirsty!” Sound at all familiar?
Don’t look down; this inquiry isn’t about a number on the scale or how your jeans fit. It’s not a shame game, it’s a claim game — how you claim space in your life in a way that feels just right for you. If you’re like me and most of the women I work with, […]
Tender shoots are cropping up. Little buds are showing on branches that were empty just yesterday. Here in the northeast and in many areas, green is coming back after months of brown and grey. It feels like we spend a lot of time waiting for the big things — the long awaited vacation, the chance to see […]
Trying times can bring the strongest person to her knees, emotionally if not literally. That’s where I’ve been the past few weeks, as so many things I thought were moving along smoothly or falling into place fell away. Happy clients needed to cancel and did not reschedule, or scheduled many weeks out. Calls and emails went unanswered, sometimes multiple […]
How often do you stop and consciously take stock of what is good in your life, my friend? Even more important, how often do you take stock of what you are good at, all the large and small ways your contribute to goodness in the world?
Death is so paradoxical — it’s the only thing we can truly be sure of in life, and yet somehow we think it won’t ever really happen to us. Oh yes, we know it intellectually. We plan for it by setting up wills and trusts for loved ones, purchasing plots in cemeteries or making clear […]
There’s this phrase that’s been a mantra of mine for many years now: Don’t forget to remember that you know what you know. What does that mean, exactly, and how do you do it? It means getting quiet and paying attention. It means following the impulse to turn right rather than left and missing an […]
Have you ever had a well-meaning friend or relative offer advice that just hits you, well, wrong? There’s a difference between positive thinking and denial, or rushing the process. First of all, that “well-meant advice” often comes from others’ discomfort around your discomfort.
You are amazing, you know that right? You can go and go and go, and most of the time it feels like it’s working. Except when it doesn’t, and you get sick or, worse, trip and break your ankle.
But just because you CAN run on all cylinders for weeks or months on end doesn’t mean it’s a good thing.